Relationship

     The plutonian relationship can be a very healing and comforting relationship, or it can be a very dangerous, violent, abusive, and controlling relationship.  When you think of Pluto, you must think of fresh starts, transformation bringing problems out into the open, eruptive change, unconscious buried emotions, secrecy, cruelty, and psychological problems.

    In the ideal Plutonian relationship, you would be of comfort to each other, offering healing from past hurts. You would feel newly transformed by this person, and you would feel as if you can now begin a new life.  However, many times in a Plutonian relationship, there are power struggles.  This is especially common among the Pluto in Libra generation, born between 1971 and 1984.  However, anyone can experience a plutonian relationship.  A Plutonian relationship can have the elements of abuse, whether it be verbal, physical, psychological, or emotional.  Revenge and malicious behavior, such as secret affairs and manipulation, can occur.  A Plutonian relationship is generally marked with power struggles where neither person is willing to give in and compromise.  This type of relationship can leave scars that are not easily healed as Pluto likes to repress such emotions and then blurt them out when the time is right.  What most people don't realize is that when in a Plutonian relationship, you often resent qualities in your mate that you see in yourself, but it takes a life-changing event to recognize this in order to heal, which generally takes years with Pluto.  Plutonian relationships can have a sense of obsession and intensity.  This could be one of the most intense relationships you have ever been in, but with such intensity, violence can erupt.  Abuse is common in these relationships because one person or both often want to possess the other and control everything they do, so when the other person does something we don't like, we must put them back in line with power, which is often abusive.  Jealousy is also a common theme of plutonian relationships, You will find that you can't even look in the direction of another man/woman simply because you know the backlash you will get, the glaring eyes, the comments, the manipulation to bring you back to where you need to be sort of speak.  Your partner may constantly remind you of areas that you need to change, which is another form of control and manipulation.  One person can be downright cruel to others under a Plutonian influence.  ​

    A Plutonian relationship just like other relationships can be a transformative experience as well.  Often times when a Plutonian relationship ends one person is left feeling abandoned, alone, as if their will to live has been taken from them.  They find it impossible to let go of this relationship and it becomes an obsession for them with great emotional intensity.  They will not stop until they are back together or until they ruin any new relationship that the ex may get involved in.  If the Plutonian relationship is recognized and understood then it can survive or be a source of transformation with a breakup.  They will recognize exactly what it is they now need in a relationship and realize the necessary changes they need to make to achieve that so that they won't repeat the previous patterns.  This is with much conscious thought or therapy because Plutonian's can also get stuck in limbo never truly letting go of their past hurts.